Record with both of you on board. Hodge listens without interrupting.
See where you got stuck.
Understand what went unheard and why certain words hit a nerve.
Find a way forward.
Get specific suggestions for each of you, and something to try together.
Read a report
Three made-up conversations that went badly. Pick one, and read the report as either person.
From the report you share · Where things shifted
A request got answered with the past.
What was said
Mei · 12:34 in
“Can we plan it together this time?”
Sam · 12:40 in
“I already did a lot of the planning, though.”
What it may mean
Both concerns can be valid. A request about the future can sound like a complaint about the past, so each of you may have answered something the other didn’t quite say.
Try this next time
Whoever speaks next, say back what you heard before you add your side.
“So you want us to plan it together. Is that it?”
Put words to what felt off.
Questions?
Will Hodge tell us who’s right?
Hodge names unhelpful responses and explains why they hurt the conversation. It doesn’t declare a winner.
Who can read the reports?
Both of you. Hodge writes a report for each of you and one together. Once you’ve linked your accounts, you can each read all three on your own phone. Until then, they stay on the phone you recorded on, where anyone using it can read them.
How do I bring this up with my partner?
Try: “We keep getting stuck on this. Want to get another perspective together?”
Do we both need the app?
One iPhone works. We recommend two for the best experience.
When can we use it?
We’re testing now. Join the waitlist to hear when it’s ready.
What will it cost?
We haven’t set a price yet. You’ll know before you download it.
Which languages does it understand?
English for now. More languages are coming later.
Can we try it early?
Join the waitlist, then opt in to early testing together.
Is this therapy?
No. Hodge is a self-help tool, not a replacement for professional support.
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